Per usual, it's always the introverts that need to change, never the extroverts.
Hi Steven—thanks for checking out the article! I tried to focus on how to engage with other designers at events comfortably as an introvert, I definitely didn't mean to imply that they should change in any way. Introverts are great, as are extroverts. No changing necessary on either side of the fence in my opinion. One of the best features of our industry is the freedom to express yourself in your own way. Do you identify as an introvert, an extrovert or a combination of both?
Extrovert is usually always considered default, while introverts are presented like they’re living within some I Am Legend narrative. As someone who probably lands in the middle on a good day, I’d like to see an extrovert’s guide where we learn tips on how to avoid the following:
- Monopolizing all conversation or interactions
- Preferring trite or less-considered dialogue over meaningful or “deep” topics
- Conversing while scanning the room for the next interaction
- Avoiding asking questions that doesn’t benefit oneself in some way
Anyway, thanks for following up. I didn’t mean to imply the essay wasn’t valuable or you have bad intentions. Those events can be a nightmare for anyone. There’s just always an implied or subconscious connotation that it’s really introverts that have the problem, and extroverts are just fine.
That would make a FANTASTIC article! Is it something you'd be comfortable writing? If so we could pitch it to our editor, I think it would be a really great piece!
That list is on point. Not only are these things that very extroverted people absolutely do, but as someone who also finds themselves somewhere in the middle I am guilty of 1 and 3 at times. Thanks for pointing these out, and absolutely worthy of its own article.
Find the other elephant in the room. Love that tip.
Yeah, it works like a charm every time!
Thank you so much for writing this. I have a really hard time at those kind of events too, and since I don't drink, it's nice to have some other coping skills that will help me along the way. Much appreciated :)
I'm so glad you found it helpful, Elizabeth! :)
Easy, just don't go. That's how I deal with this stuff...