There are lots of places to ask for developer help (stack overflow, other forums), but are there any good places to ask for design help?
It depends on what you mean by "design help". Stack Overflow is successful because, once a solution is found, it can easily be verified as working or ineffective. When it comes to a design question, well...
If you're looking at "bigger picture" questions, Quora (http://quora.com/) is fantastic. if you're looking for very specific feedback on your work, there's Dribbble (though you have to be very clear that you're looking for criticism). Then there's Designer News, of course. Do you have an example of the kind of help you'd be looking for?
I was wondering how I would make something appear to be above another while being a "flat" design? Or should I just keep the shadow?
That's easy, just use a flat shadow. But remember to use only flat colours and flat typefaces.
Would be great to see a screenshot to be able to speak more precisely to the element at hand, but my general philosophy on this is to first use color to show levels of depth (darker colors move easily look farther away than lighter ones), and then to use a shadow or other 3-d effect when that isn't possible (you can't change the colors of the elements).
In addition to a shadow, you can do a single-pixel semi-transparent line. That feels a little more "flat."
^ A less sarcastic reply would be: If you are willing to sacrifice an understanding of your UI (or whatever it is you are designing) for the sake of being on-trend then you are doing it wrong. 'Flat' isn't and shouldn't be the goal. 'Flat' is a byproduct of removing superfluous decoration - made popular as a reaction to the excessive skeuomorphism of previous years - but 'flat' isn't real, 'flat' doesn't exist.
it isn't that it needs to be "flat" but the rest of the site is mostly flat so i was just trying stay consistant
I'm honestly not quite sure. But I'm always open to providing help and advice if you need anything. www.kyleadams.me
Hunie is great. hunie.co You can get real quality feedback on your designs. It's not a dribbble high five board. It's consistently provided me with good actionable feedback.