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Ask DN: How do you deal with jerks?

over 5 years ago from , Student

Since there have been some… disgruntled participants on DN lately, I'm interested in how do you all deal with jerks on the internet?

"Don't feed the troll", I know… But sometimes, you can't escape so easily :)

7 comments

  • Allan GrinshteinAllan Grinshtein, over 5 years ago (edited over 5 years ago )

    We see everything. We enforce the "Or else" written in the footer and most discourse on DN is civil as a result.

    People tend to be needlessly aggressive on the internet when in person they're perfectly nice. That's why we require full names and credentials and it helps. This isn't the place for anonymous comments.

    Sometimes, things come across as antagonistic when they're not intended that way. Everyone has different sensitivities. Moderators and admins regularly deal with people who cross the line. I'm personally pretty ruthless about making jerks disappear when they exceed my own tolerance for antagonism.

    As far as personally dealing with negativity, I usually just shrug.

    11 points
  • Dylan BaskindDylan Baskind, over 5 years ago

    It seems DN's Jerk Population are at least of the best possible species of Jerk: that is, people expressing online jerk-ish-ness because they passionately care about X,Y or Z; and not to simply stir unrest.

    That being said: I think the best policy for online argument that has moved too far from the rational and ordered, is moving the discussion to a private message. There's something about the combination of anonymity and public-forum that makes people Go All Cray on internet messaging boards. I think a one-on-one context puts folks back in their actual human mode, instead of their omnipotent laptop mode.

    (PS: As a long time reader of DN, and now more recently, a participant [was really hard to register from a Sydney timezone haha], I have indeed noticed a certain rising in the blood pressure especially around a particular topic, which I shan't name explicitly, but rhymes with "fetch" :)

    3 points
  • anthony thomasanthony thomas, over 5 years ago

    Learn to be more carefree.

    2 points
  • Lloyd WonderLloyd Wonder, over 5 years ago

    If you're having a disagreement with someone and you believe that your argument is well-reasoned and argued well enough then it's best to just end it when they reach a threshold you don't appreciate.

    There aren't many people on the internet that can rustle my feathers to the point where it ruins my day. I generally have too many things going on at once to even worry about it much after I've replied.

    Be passionate in your replies but let it go once you type that last full stop. Out of sight, out of mind.

    2 points
  • ben johnstonben johnston, over 5 years ago

    "It is within a man's power to love even those who sin against him. This becomes possible when you realize that they are your brothers, that they wrong you unintentionally or out of ignorance, that in a little while you and they will be dead, and above all, that they have not really hurt you so long as you have not sullied your conscience or damaged your inner self by responding in kind." - Aurelius

    2 points
  • Hery Ratsimihah, over 5 years ago

    Give them a smile and keep walking.

    0 points