I think most people struggle with this. It's hard to hone in on the main aspects of your personal identity that you want to highlight. It might be useful for you to treat yourself like a client. Go through the exact process you take a client through, and get feedback from designers and people you trust. And also remember this: it's not permanent, you can change it whenever you want, so don't put too much pressure on yourself. :)
I think most people struggle with this. It's hard to hone in on the main aspects of your personal identity that you want to highlight. It might be useful for you to treat yourself like a client. Go through the exact process you take a client through, and get feedback from designers and people you trust. And also remember this: it's not permanent, you can change it whenever you want, so don't put too much pressure on yourself. :)